We Have Nothing in Common

What's a couple to do when they feel they have fallen out of love, and/or have nothing in common? Is it over for good? Can anything turn things around?

One way I respond to these kinds of questions in therapy is to ask a couple what drew them together in the first place. A couple might then find some ideas to rekindle the spark.

The solution might be found in taking regular walks that make it easier to talk together or just to be together. It might be sitting face to face across a table and looking into each other eyes to talk. It might be working together on a home project or taking a vacation dedicated to focusing on the two of you. As a couple do you work together well, or do you do better engaging in a form of recreation?

If there are deeper issues, and resentment has taken a hold, you may want to consider discussing the matter openly with your partner. If you run into the same old argument and can't seem to break the pattern, consider seeing a therapist to help you work through the issues and to learn effective ways of communicating.

As always, I remain available for an initial phone consultation to see if we would be a good fit.

Call me at 425 652-1413 or email sheryl@sunraycounseling.com .